I do not think that people are simply a product of their environment. I think that it takes much more than an influence to shape someone’s life, good or bad. Why? I’m glad you asked.
I think that people often blame their circumstances on their upbringing or their environment. I think that we all make choices. Someone could be raised in a working home and still be too lazy to work. Someone could be raised in drug infested home and still remain drug free. I think that while there are two extreme ends of the spectrum, there is also middle ground. I have learned that people will blame just about anything to avoid blaming themselves and taking responsibility for their actions.
If someone grows up in a drug infested home (selling or using) is that person more likely to use or sell drugs as an adult? I think that it depends on what other influences are available. There are always teachers and other family members. Ultimately I think that it is up to the individual whether they want that lifestyle for themselves. We choose our path and must accept our consequences. We can learn from mistakes but we must not repeat them, and if at all possible, learn from other’s mistakes too! People can come from happy, healthy homes and still be demented or broken. It’s all about how you value your life and the emphasis you put on being positive.
Everyone is considered a child until the age of 18. Everyone should utilize this time to make the big mistakes and learn from them, that way they can be productive adults. You don’t have to be a product of your environment, be better and expect more.
“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.” ~Tony Robbins
“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
Life is funny sometimes. Not in a comical way but in an ironic way that makes you shake your head and question your judgment. Why? I’m glad you asked…
You see there are times when you know exactly what to do and say, which direction to go and who you should go with. There are other times when you, frankly, don’t have a damn clue. First I will say that I have no advice on this matter because as much as I would like to use the cliché “follow your heart” sometimes, your heart sucks! If you follow your heart you usually end up broken hearted and your brain is tapping its foot saying “duh!” But following your brain can leave you old and bitter. I am hoping that during this “writing” I can clarify things for myself.
If one follows their heart, are they being true to themselves? Are there ulterior motives to relationships that are never spoken of? Is great sex enough? What is enough? Are your needs being met? Physically & Mentally & Spiritually? What if money isn’t an issue, is it easier? All I’m saying is that IF human are meant to be monogamous, then shouldn’t you do that with your true other half? What is a true half? These are the questions that no one can answer but you.
Now, let’s say that you have successfully answered all the above questions, now what? What if your relationship sucks? Well, do you break up a seemingly happy home to be “happy”? If it’s breakable, is it even happy? What if you’re miserable, do you run? What if you’re still unsure? What happens if you burn a perfectly ‘ok’ bridge? Do kids change anything?
Should you approach a relationship like a business transaction? Not necessarily about money rather a trade or bartering deal… I give you this you give me that?
All that I’m saying is think with your brain, it’s what it’s made for. Love with your heart and try like hell to keep your head above water. But in the end all you can do is try and succeed or try and fail.