My thoughts about fate, destiny, and the inevitable. What are they? I’m glad you asked.
I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and is sometimes out of our control. We can try to dictate our future, but it is ultimately left to the powers of a higher being, chance, and of course fate. With that said I don’t think the signs are always apparent, but it’s definitely something you can feel when it happens. Sometimes it is so incredibly clear and the signs all point in the same direction. The question is what do you do once you realize that fate has a different plan for you than you have for yourself. Do you abort your current plan? Try to combine the two? Or ignore the obvious? Sometimes patience is the key but on other occasions you have to seize the day. If you truly believe in the inevitable or destiny or fate, you have to be prepared to succumb, right? Well, I suppose it depends on circumstances and exactly what the situation is and what is being intervened upon. Especially what involves matters of the heart. There are only a few times in life that you truly fall in love, so why not take the opportunity if it is given to you. You can’t let fear stand in your way. I think you should take the chance and see where it takes you. If you don’t, you’ll always wonder what if? I think you should take risks, learn from your mistakes, love hard, fall softly, and if the wind blows let it take you away.
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
Life is funny sometimes. Not in a comical way but in an ironic way that makes you shake your head and question your judgment. Why? I’m glad you asked…
You see there are times when you know exactly what to do and say, which direction to go and who you should go with. There are other times when you, frankly, don’t have a damn clue. First I will say that I have no advice on this matter because as much as I would like to use the cliché “follow your heart” sometimes, your heart sucks! If you follow your heart you usually end up broken hearted and your brain is tapping its foot saying “duh!” But following your brain can leave you old and bitter. I am hoping that during this “writing” I can clarify things for myself.
If one follows their heart, are they being true to themselves? Are there ulterior motives to relationships that are never spoken of? Is great sex enough? What is enough? Are your needs being met? Physically & Mentally & Spiritually? What if money isn’t an issue, is it easier? All I’m saying is that IF human are meant to be monogamous, then shouldn’t you do that with your true other half? What is a true half? These are the questions that no one can answer but you.
Now, let’s say that you have successfully answered all the above questions, now what? What if your relationship sucks? Well, do you break up a seemingly happy home to be “happy”? If it’s breakable, is it even happy? What if you’re miserable, do you run? What if you’re still unsure? What happens if you burn a perfectly ‘ok’ bridge? Do kids change anything?
Should you approach a relationship like a business transaction? Not necessarily about money rather a trade or bartering deal… I give you this you give me that?
All that I’m saying is think with your brain, it’s what it’s made for. Love with your heart and try like hell to keep your head above water. But in the end all you can do is try and succeed or try and fail.
People are so afraid to be honest. Yes, a statement, not a question. I am confused by this weird phenomenon. It is, to me anyway, so easy to be honest. I am sometimes brutally honest… only I feel that it is the least brutal thing I could do. Why? I’m glad you asked.
If you have ever been lied to about anything of significance, you may very well understand my reasoning. I consider myself honest and forthcoming. I don’t generally beat around the bush or try to hide things. With that said, I can compete and play mindless games if that is what the situation calls for. I like to think that I am open to change and an overall understanding and forgiving person; though I NEVER forget (suppress maybe, lol). People can use any excuse they need to lie, the list is endless. If you really care about someone, you could try saying “I don’t want to share right now” ß it’s the truth. Or better yet, “It’s none of your business”, unless of course it is their business. But the bottom line is avoidance is better than a lie, but know that the truth MUST come at some point or you will lose whatever or whomever you’re trying to protect. Lying is far more “brutal” than the truth. And if in fact the truth is going to hurt, maybe you should choose your actions wiser so you don’t have to justify or try to explain or backtrack. Everyone has regrets, but strive to never make someone regret you. The truth is if you feel the need to lie, it is because you have done something you shouldn’t have. Here’s more truth, Trust is the one thing that is easy to initially obtain, however, once it is lost or broken, it will undoubtedly be the hardest thing you will ever earn back in your lifetime (I can only assume this is so it will be rightfully cherished). It is also one thing that can never be fully restored to its once flawless state. I’m not saying you can’t recover from a lie, I’m saying that once you become a habitual offender, expect to be treated as so. Your word may be your most valuable asset and I wish that people care half as much about their word as they do their credit score.
The heart sometimes bruises, not a purple or blue bruise, but one of those ugly green ones you don’t even know you have until someone touches it. These you see take the longest to heal, no band-aid or gauze will work… only time, except that even time doesn’t heal all, only acts as a thin shield that can be broken with a single memory or thought. Once the shield is broken, it’s as if it’s brand new, an open wound, waiting to heal again but knowing that it will never truly heal…